Making the decision to move a loved one into a place of safety is really really hard. Hard because we are taking away some of their independence. Painful to turn the tables and become the person to make decisions about someone who has always been there for me. Someone who was independent, someone who could make decisions for themselves, someone who lived life how they wanted to. Someone we were dependent on is now dependent on us. I hate the idea of my beautiful, independent, creative, strong, intelligent, well travelled aunt moving into a place I know she would hate. Moving to a place that is not her home.But it has to be done. I only wish that there were Just Company Companions available where my aunt lives. She would love to just go for a long walk with someone. This ‘someone’ who would treat her with dignity, respect and talk to her as an equal. This ‘someone’ would go to the cinema with her, go to an exhibition, have a laugh, share a picnic. If only, if only, if only…… she could be independent if only….
Independence, independence, independence – what a loaded word. What does independence mean to someone? Is it having a car, is it making a cup of tea whenever you want. Or is it just being able to do what you want, when you want, how you want?
Here at Just Company we have had some really interesting times. But we are happy, Just Company is doing just what it said it was going to do: Maintain independence.
Here is how one of our clients feels:Quote: ‘My mum has always been fiercely independent and I think it is very important to her to know that she has the ability to go out from there (Care Home). I think that the outings have really helped mum to come to terms with going into care – it has shown her that life is still worth living and I also think it is important for her to have a part of her life that she doesn’t feel is organised by me!’